Today, online dating is widely accepted across generations and there are a multitude of dating sites available in the market. Many of these sites boast very large memberships. Because of the great span of selection, there is a certain art that often goes unnoticed but is incredibly important for successful online dating.
The natural tendency for most new online daters is to immerse themselves in the plethora of profiles on a site. However, limiting how many are viewed trains the savvy online dater to focus on quality versus quantity. Paying attention to the depth of online profiles leads to better and easier decisions in addition to higher satisfaction. Having so many profiles available at the touch of a keyboard can actually be overwhelming and many people fall victim to “choice overload” – where too many options paralyze their decision-making skills. Online daters can become turned off by too many options and although it may seem counter-intuitive, studies show that online daters are often more satisfied with their choices when they’re presented with fewer options. Therefore, the best strategy for online daters is to impose time limits on themselves when browsing profiles. Viewing profiles in manageable chunks, like 15-minute intervals twice a day, and only choosing to contact a few of the members viewed is ideal. It reduces online burnout and trains the online dater to be more selective.
Another mistake that many online daters make is doing side-by-side comparisons of the profiles that they’re viewing to see who meets their predetermined set of criteria. While reducing the pool of potential mates is beneficial, having a checklist-mentality and not letting each profile stand on its own merit will limit possibilities in a negative way. Online dating can sometimes breed an environment that promotes selection based on the most highly-desirable traits (e.g. appearance) but the most attractive people online are the least likely to respond because they’re trying to manage “contact overload” themselves. Looking beyond the most highly-desirable traits and focusing on what would make you connect with another person are key. The challenge is that many online daters don’t invest the kind of time and effort that they should when writing their profiles. That means online daters have to develop a trained eye to distinguish between those that simply don’t care and those that are serious about portraying their best image.
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